How to Find Faith During a Divorce…

I have been having this issue lately. I haven’t desired to reunite with my ex-husband…I have just felt like everything has been working against me and I find myself saying, “Is this my punishment for initiating the divorce?” So, I did a little research to see what articles were out there to help me figure out my path to finding my faith again. This is what I found:

“You stood before family and friends on your wedding day, thrilled to be able to spend the rest of your life with your one true love, but now that dream is over. When a marriage ends prematurely through divorce, it’s natural to feel lost, scared, sad or faithless. If your relationship with God was once strong and thriving, you may find that you struggle to feel that same connection. While a divorce is a difficult process for you, your former spouse and any children you may have, it is possible to get through this period of your life and find faith to help you along the way.

 

Instructions:

• Remind yourself that the divorce is not entirely your fault. Whether you chose to leave your spouse or it was your spouse’s idea to terminate the marriage, remember that it always takes two people to make a relationship work. Avoid placing all of the blame on yourself.
• Forgive your spouse for his/her failures. You cannot move forward with your life until you are able to completely forgive his/her mistakes. While the divorce is not entirely your fault, it’s not completely his/her fault either. Forgive your spouse in your heart and, if your relationship is still civil, verbally convey forgiveness.

• Spend time in prayer each day. Don’t worry about being professional or holy. Simply state your requests to God as honestly and truthfully as you can. Share your heartache, your pain, your hopes and your feelings. Ask for guidance and, if you feel weak, ask for strength to make it through this time.
• Read your Bible, Book of Mormon, Koran or other holy document. While it may seem simple, immersing yourself in your holy scriptures may help you feel closer to God and more faithful and calm. You don’t have to read a lot, but make an effort to read a page or two each day and to focus on what the passage means.
• Allow yourself to grieve. Don’t feel that you’re less of a person or less faithful for feeling sad about the end of your marriage. You don’t have to be strong all of the time. It is okay to cry, scream, yell or lose sleep over this. It’s normal. Just remember to talk to a friend, counselor, pastor or therapist if you feel out of control with grief, or if your sadness begins to affect your ability to maintain your daily activities, such as work.
• Spend time with friends from church, synagogue or temple who have experienced a divorce but who maintain a strong faith. You’ll be able to vent your frustrations and receive godly advice that helps you through this while maintaining a positive perspective.”

Read more: How to Find Faith During a Divorce | eHow.com http://www.ehow.com/how_8279262_faith-during-divorce.html#ixzz2KBBK3jF9

 -DivorcedChic